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Erroneous Assumptions Lead to Failure

My upbringing caused me to have a heightened awareness of the power our mind has over our actions. As a youngster, I recall my father sitting my brothers, sister, and I down in the living room. He would then go to the record player and place Earl Nightingale’s The Strangest Secret album on the turn table. We listened attentively for what seemed like hours. At times my over active mind would drift off to another place, but I would always come back to Mr. Nightingale’s message of, “We become what we think about.”

At the time I couldn’t imagine the profound influence my father’s actions would have on my thought process and rationalization in my latter years. He was instilling in me a desire to learn about what I deem the most important value in this life – human compassion. Hence my spending the past 10 plus years engorged in books and audios referencing human behavior and interaction.

I find myself trying to listen more and talk less. As I continue to be a student in the art of listening, I recognize the unintended negative consequences an individual’s assumptions can have toward human compassion. I find myself driven to eliminate the formulation of assumptions from my own mind as well as those minds within my circle of influence.

Our ability to think and rationalize is what sets us apart from all other life sources on the Earth. The way we choose to think is what ultimately determines our behaviors. Most of us have been conditioned since birth to formulate assumptions based off of hypotheses rather than facts. We fail to complete the investigative process that leads to factual conclusions. Our erroneous assumptions can cause us to blame someone for an action the other person may not have done. Once we begin finger pointing, our ability to have a positive effect on tomorrow has just been annihilated.

We sabotage our own efforts and initiatives through false assumptions. The assumption of I’m not good enough, or I’ll never be promoted, or whatever it is, you get the point. These are lies we have lived with that hold us back from making our difference on the world. Instead of focusing on what we perceive we can’t do, we need to focus on what we can do.For example, over the past 35 years I have witnessed plenty of times when an employee’s false assumption has led to negative outcomes either with a customer’s product or with a fellow co-worker. These days, when I overhear a discussion in which assumptions are being made, I stop the conversation. I say let’s find out the facts. We then conduct an impromptu investigation, which seems to help our interrelationships with our customers and co-workers.

In their book, Now Discover Your Strengths, Marcus Buckingham and Donald Clifton, PhD, help individuals discover their natural talents. I believe when we are using our natural talents, we are less likely to make negative assumptions about ourselves. I also believe as we think positive about ourselves, we will think positive about others. Our thoughts control our behaviors, and once we establish positive thoughts, we are ready to begin reclaiming responsibility.

#text #assumptions #language #philosophy

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